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Monday, November 23, 2009

Setting the Record Straight

It seems I forgot one of the crucial truths about blogging: When you open yourself up and share your thoughts, you are also opening yourself up to criticism. In addition, written words might not always accurately depict the real human within. Bearing those two thoughts in mind, I wanted to correct an impression I might have left with my last blog.

I DO NOT feel I am a failure. In fact, I am far more successful than I ever dreamed possible. I have started and fallen many times in my 40 years, but I have risen each and every single time, having learned something new, about myself, about life, about succeeding. Every time I have tripped I have learned what it takes to pull myself back up. One is never a failure unless they choose to continue laying, inactive, where they last fell.

What I intended to convey when I wrote the *Impostor* blog was that people in my daily walk are viewing me as a bit more super-human than I ought to be given credit for. I have only lived in Rochester for a little less than 6 years. We have no family here, no history here ... people in this place only know the me they have seen for the last 6 years. So when I decided to take this bull by the horns and wrestle it to the ground, all they see is a strong minded, iron willed woman who is taking on a tough opponent and winning. They don't see how many times I have had to fall down before in order to learn how to fight this hard on my feet.

I DO NOT have a failing mindset, I 100% believe in my success. I KNOW that I am going to accomplish these goals. But I also know that there will be times when I falter, trip and/or even fall. What I know about myself, that these other people do not, is that I will pull myself up and I will start again and that road block? That bump in the road that caused me to stumble? I will annihilate it and it will never trip me up again.

No, I am not making this journey for anyone other than myself. My goals are for me, my health, my well being. But that doesn't mean I am blind to the people in my life who watch what I do. It does not make me deaf to the comments, good and bad, about the choices I am making. Unfortunately, or fortunately, I have not become desensitized to other humans around me. I guess what I was trying to say, in the blog, is that I realize that the "Superman" me will someday reveal herself to be "Clark Kent" to these people. But even when that happens, I am not going to stop being what I am am, who I am and doing what I do. I am not going to let it get in the way of my success.

Being able to write about my journey is one of the greatest gifts I can give myself. I am sure there will be times when my resolve will be less iron and maybe a bit more pudding. At those times I want to be able to share it, work it out on *paper* and maybe even get some encouragement from others who read my words. I take punches pretty well, but sometimes even Superman has to deal with weaker moments. When those moments happen, I can only hope that there will be supporters who will walk me past that kryptonite so that I can fly again, not cram my face into it and kick me.

Sorry for all the Superman analogies ... its what came out of the fingertips. Please don't think that I believe I am truly Superman. LOL (Boy, now THAT would surprise my husband!)

"To conquer oneself is the best and noblest victory; to be vanquished by one's own nature is the worst and most ignoble defeat." ~ Plato ~

I will input my food diary later today.

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Impostor

Have you ever felt like you were an impostor? Possibly pretending to be something you are not, feigning comfort way out of your comfort zone, laughing when inside you would rather curl up and cry? I feel like that pretty much every day, in one aspect of my life or another. My motto has always been "fake it until you make it". Or, in other words, keep muddling through until it starts to be natural.

This philosophy has served me well (somewhat) in quite a few hairy situations. I absolutely HATE social situations where I have little or nothing in common with the people I am socializing with. For example, business dinners with my husband. Let's face it ... laser physics are way beyond me. And, although I love my gun-toting former USMC sniper with all my heart, actual guns are simply not a passion for me. I am cursed with an inability to use small talk, so I have to psych myself up before any of these functions. Smile, nod, fake it 'til you make it, ask about them, talk about the weather ... keep them talking so you don't have to, etc.

I also feel a bit like an impostor right now with the whole fitness/weight loss thing. Sure, I am doing everything I am supposed to, I am excited, pumped and sincerely motivated to blow my goals out of the water. But, I am also painfully acquainted with the real me; the one who fails, falls, quits, blows it, loses her motivation ...

People see me getting results and they seem to believe that I have this rock-hard will power that absolutely refuses to quit. For some reason, they think I have cracked the code on motivation. And I am quietly quaking every day, knowing that I am going to slip up and they will see me for the impostor I am. Just another regular person, who will probably fail a billion times before reaching my goals. Even when my trainer suggested that I have the drive to someday compete, in the back of my mind I was thinking "Oh boy, I have her fooled too!" I know me. Or at least, I know my history.

So, even while I am excited and motivated by my success, I continue to be cautiously optimistic, lest that person decides to rear her chubby little cheeks again. I am keeping guards posted, watching for the little imp who whispers in my ear and causes me to step off my trail to success.

Who knows? Maybe someday, the impostor will be the truth; I really will have *made it* after a whole lot of faking it.

SUNDAY FOOD DIARY
Breakfast

Egg Whites (All Whites 100% Liquid Egg Whites), 0.7 cup
Regular Coffee, 3 cup (8 fl oz)
John McCann's Steel Cut Irish Oatmeal, 0.5 cup
Apples, fresh, 0.25 cup, quartered or chopped
Lunch
Annie's Organic Horseradish Mustard, 4 tsp
Chicken Breast, no skin, 3 ounces
Romaine Lettuce (salad), 1 inner leaf
Red Ripe Tomatoes, 2 slice, thin/small
Dinner
Jennie-O Extra Lean Ground Turkey, 4 oz 120 26
Mache, 1 cup
Frontera Gourmet Mexican Salsa - Chipotle, 6 tbsp
Snack
Cottage Cheese, 2% Milkfat, 4 oz
Almonds, 12 almond
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup

Friday, November 20, 2009

Where does motivation come from?

"Inspiration is wonderful when it happens, but the writer must develop an approach for the rest of the time... The wait is simply too long." ~ Leonard Bernstein ~

I was looking for another of my motivational quotes (I collect them, and like to share them, as you may have noticed) when I saw this one. And I realized that the seeking of motivational quotes IS my approach to those times when inspiration lags. When I don't know what to write next, I take brief glimpses into the minds of inspirational people from all walks of life. Whether it is from the brilliant or the simple mind, there is inspiration to be gleaned everywhere.

Just as this idea applies to writing, I think that it can also apply to mindset and will power. When the road gets rough and tries to trip you at every turn, go find something that reminds you why it is important to finish the journey, even if it is with a few bumps and bruises.

Yesterday, in my Spinning class, I was struggling a bit with some seriously tired hamstrings (ball workout, 'nuff said). I felt weak and and inept. Usually, I can picture some scenic bike route, with hills and valleys, but even more flowers, birds and fresh air, to keep me motivated to finish the ride. Yesterday, the picture just wasn't coming, and I was feeling every rotation of my wheels. Until, about halfway through, this quiet, melodic music came over the speaker. Our instructor told us that this next hill was starting off slow and intense, envision a steep, steep climb, but would graduate into a full-fledged race down the other side. That the music was actually going to fly at the end. Next thing you know, Celtic music was winding its way to a typical frenzy. All of a sudden, I was climbing that hill on Inishmore, the largest of the Aran Islands, again. I could smell the crisp Irish Atlantic breeze, I could see the limestone jutting out of the ground. I was right back there and, even though steep and painful, I found joy and inspiration in the music and the memory. By the time we were "flying back down the other side of the mountain", I felt revived and really ready to finish the class, no matter how tired my hamstrings might be.

(For any who do not know, I should note that I celebrated my 40th birthday in the West of Ireland this summer. It was amazing and I can't wait to return.)

What motivates you? What do you need to do, think about, envision to make it past your weakest moments? Who inspires you to reach past your limits?

"Without inspiration the best powers of the mind remain dormant, they is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks." ~ Johann Gottfried Von Herder ~

FRIDAY FOOD DIARY
Breakfast

Ezekiel 4:9 Sprouted 100% Whole Grain Bread, 2 serving
*All Whites* 100% Liquid Egg Whites, 4 serving
Blue Agave, Organic (Wholesome Sweeteners brand), 0.5 tbsp
Olivio Buttery Spray 5 sprays, 2 serving
Blueberries, fresh, 0.3 cup
Regular Coffee, 3 cup (8 fl oz)
Lunch
Diced Tomatoes & Green Chilies (RoTel), 2 serving
Jennie-O Lean Ground Turkey, 4 oz
Beans, red kidney, 0.5 cup
Dinner
Gorton's Grilled Shrimp - Classiv Grilled flavor, 1 serving
Mixed Vegetables (Broccoli, Cauliflower, Carrots) Birds Eye - 87g, 1 cup
Snack
Cottage Cheese, 2% Milkfat, 0.5 cup (not packed)
Del Monte Lite Diced Peaches, 4 oz
Carrots, raw, 1 cup, strips or slices
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup

Thursday, November 19, 2009

When it's time to eat ...

Today, at precisely 12:30pm it was time for me to eat my lunch. Luckily, I was prepared! Prior to leaving that morning, I prepared a cooler full of everything I would need for the time I would be out and about. A protein shake and an apple for my mid-morning snack, a healthy turkey sandwich on Ezekiel 4:9 bread for my lunch, a cup of sliced cucumbers with a little vinegar sprinkled on top, and a big bottle of water.

Mid-morning snack was easy - I ate it in the car, in between the physical therapists office and the hair salon. However, at 12:30pm, when it was time to eat my lunch, I had a head full of tin foil and was sitting under a dryer. There were 5 people in the salon, no including the stylists. Nobody else was eating. Hmmm. OH WELL!

I asked Tammy (my stylist) to hand me my cooler and I apologized to her, explaining that it was 12:30pm and it was time for me to eat my lunch. So eat it I did.

Sure, I got looks. A couple of older ladies sat there, whispering to one another, glancing my way. I did my best to be neat, to mind my manners and chew with my mouth closed. But, by God, when you need to eat every 2.5 hours, you NEED to eat, and no matter what the location, nothing is getting in the way.

After I finished, I started thinking how funny I must have looked, all tin foiled and heating up, with my psycodelic pink lunch cooler on my lap. Being that I am not yet skinny, I am sure people were thinking "Boy, that poor girl can't even wait until she is at a table until she has to eat. tsk, tsk, tsk." My response? I giggled. Again, I must have been a sight.

The things we do to make our goals, the lengths we are willing to travel. Maureen shared a story with me about eating tuna fish on an airplane. Hey, she had to eat and THAT was what she was supposed to eat at that time. You do what you have to.

I am learning to feed the engine when it needs to be fed and not let anything get in the way. When I wake, I need to feed myself first, and take care of my lovable son 2nd. That's not instincitve for a Mom! But, as Maureen pointed out to me, his little metabolism can afford to wait a few minutes ... mine can't. It's amazing the results, too. I am hungry when it is time to eat. And I don't mean mildly uncomfortable ... I mean, feed me NOW or I will eat the first source of protein that crosses my path (beware cats and dogs!)

Now, wouldn't THAT make an interesting blog!?

"The sun is always shinning. Even though clouds may come along and obscure the sun for a while, the sun is always shining. The sun never stops shining. And even though the earth turns, and the sun appears to go down, it really never stops shining." ~ Louise L. Hay

THURSDAY FOOD DIARY
Breakfast

Egg Whites (All Whites 100% Liquid Egg Whites), 0.7 cup
Regular Coffee, 3 cup (8 fl oz)
John McCann's Steel Cut Irish Oatmeal, 0.5 cup
Apples, fresh, 0.25 cup, quartered or chopped
Lunch
Ezekiel 4:9 Sprouted 100% Whole Grain Bread, 1 serving
Turkey breast meat, 2 ounce(s)
Red Ripe Tomatoes, 1 slice, medium (1/4" thick)
Romaine Lettuce (salad), 2 inner leaf
Wholly Guacamole 100 Calorie Snack Pack, 0.3 serving
Dinner
Jennie-O Extra Lean Ground Turkey, 4 oz
Mache, 1 cup
Frontera Gourmet Mexican Salsa - Chipotle, 6 tbsp
Snack
Apples, fresh, 1 medium (2-3/4" dia) (approx 3 per lb)
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup
Cucumber (with peel), 1 cup slices
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Little discoveries ...

Little discoveries along the road ...

` Trying new things is intimidating ... but, yes it can be fun!
` An entire workout performed on a ball can kick your butt.
` It IS possible to lose 2 lbs in 2 days.
` Sometimes eating MORE actually revs the metabolism up! (Go figure!)
` Strawberries taste sweeter when you haven't had sugar in a long time.
` Workout pants will fall down if you don't adjust the band while losing weight. (Now that was close!)
` Sometimes it is even more rewarding to hear compliments on your success from strangers at the gym than from your own husband.
` There are lots more fun things to do with friends than just go out to dinner.
` Some aches and pains (knee!) actually go away the MORE you workout (and the less you weigh!)
` I am in a better mood now that I release stress EVERY DAY in a healthy way.
` Knowing what you are eating and at what time frees up the brain for better pursuits.
` Goals can actually be reached.

There's been a lot in the past month and a half. Even my bad days are manageable. My life change is coming along better than I could have hoped. And I am still focused ... one step, one day at a time.

"Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do."
- Leonardo da Vinci


WEDNESDAY FOOD DIARY
Breakfast

Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup
Strawberries, fresh, 0.5 cup, sliced
Lunch
Pink Salmon (fish), 3 oz
Brown Rice, medium grain, 0.5 cup
Dinner
Chicken Breast, no skin, 4 ounces
Del Monte Cut Green Beans, 1 cup
Snack
Cottage Cheese, 1% Milkfat, 0.75 cup (not packed)
Apples, fresh, 1 small (2-1/2" dia) (approx 4 per lb)
Almonds, 12 almond
Peppers, sweet, red, fresh, 1 cup, sliced
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

When was the last time you tried something new?

I never would have pegged myself as the non-adventurous type, but as I look back over the past couple of years, I can only come up with a handful of things I have tried that are completely new. Have I always been reticent to try new things?

Looking back, I think the answer is "No, but sometimes ... yes." I have never been afraid of much, but I also enjoy the familiarity of routine. I like knowing what is going to come next and how I am going to react to it.

What, you ask, does this have to do with a health and fitness blog? I have this new workout tomorrow, you see. And I am a little intimidated by it. I am very comfortable in a weight room. I know my way around pretty much any cardio machine. And I like the "Ball". It's great for ABs.

New workout? ALL on the ball. Core intensive, butt burning, abdominal screaming full workout on a big ball. What's so scary about a ball? Kids love them! Every spring I am infatuated with getting a "W" during that Tuesday night Ball Game. FootBALL is my favorite viewing sport. What's wrong with a BALL workout.

Nothing really. It's just very knew and I am finding myself apprehensive about it. I'm sure it will go just fine. I will maneuver my way around this very heavy workload, probably fall on my face a few times, but all in all, I will get it done.

And on Thursday I will be crying out for mercy God for the extreme pain my muscles will be inflicting upon me in revenge.

So, this is going to be my something new to try for a while. Who knows? Maybe it will reopen the doors to my adventurous soul and I will be rock climbing, sky diving and wind surfing in no time!

"Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark; Professionals built the Titanic." Anonymous

TUESDAY'S FOOD DIARY
Breakfast

Ezekiel 4:9 Sprouted 100% Whole Grain Bread, 2 serving
*All Whites* 100% Liquid Egg Whites, 4 serving
Blue Agave, Organic (Wholesome Sweeteners brand), 0.5 tbsp
Olivio Buttery Spray 5 sprays, 2 serving
Blueberries, fresh, 0.3 cup
Lunch

Diced Tomatoes & Green Chilies (RoTel), 2 serving
Jennie-O Lean Ground Turkey, 4 oz
Beans, red kidney, 0.5 cup
Dinner
Bib Lettuce, 1 cup, shredded or chopped
Ken's Lite Accents Honey Mustard Vinaigrette (10 sprays), 1 serving
Shrimp, cooked, 3 oz
Kraft Mayo Light Mayonnaise (Mayo), 0.5 tbsp
Snack
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup
Ken's Lite Chunky Blue Cheese salad dressing, 1 tbsp
Cottage Cheese, 1% Milkfat, 0.75 cup (not packed)
Libby's Tropical Mandarin Oranges w/ Splenda, 0.5 cup
Carrots, raw, 1 cup, strips or slices

Monday, November 16, 2009

Inspiration

My trainer said something to me today that was ... inspiring. Earth shattering. FRIGHTENING. (No, I am not talking about my new workout, although that is INTIMIDATING!) She said that, if I was interested in competing some day, there is nothing to hold me back, not someone with my focus and drive.

Huh!

Let's just take a moment to address the minor issue in that declaration. Compete?? Ummm ... probably not. I am basically pretty shy and, believe it or not, get quite the case of stage fright. I know, all who know me and have heard me sing or watched me in a play, will find that hard to believe. But see ... that type of performance never really frightened me. Singing ... well, sure I get nervous, but its a natural thing for me to do ... always has been. Theater? That's pretending to be someone else ... and I have a lifetime experience doing that. :) But ask me to SPEAK in front of a crowd, do anything out of my comfort zone in front of a group of people and I can pretty much guarantee my knees will be quivering. So, it is highly unlikely I would ever compete in a fitness or body building competition.

I would, however, like to LOOK like I could. The very fact that she thinks I might get this old, out of shape body anywhere near that possibility absolutely makes me grin. Ohhhh boy, do I ever want to have a body that someone might think is competition level. Yes, yes. YES.

This came on the heels of a less than motivating comment about my efforts by a family member. I struggled, mentally, much of the weekend with the words which were used by that person and my seeming inability to ever please. It was like water to a dying, thirsty soul to hear someone I respect tell me that she thinks I have the *stuff*. And, oddly, I have been feeling quite ... empowered ever since. I can accomplish anything ... and I am excited to try.

(Anyone notice that I seem to have an obsession with ellipses ... today ... ? Not quite sure why ... but they are fairly addicting ...)

Remember when you see someone trying to make a positive change in his or her life, that the words you say might echo in their heads long after you are gone. think what the world could be if we all encouraged just one new person every day ...

"The tongue has the power of life and death." Proverbs 18:21

SUNDAY'S FOOD DIARY
Breakfast

Kashi Go Lean Waffle, 1 serving
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup
Olivio Buttery Spray 5 sprays, 1 serving
Grapes, 10 grape, with seeds, yields
Lunch
Atlantic Salmon (fish), 3 oz
Brown Rice, medium grain, 0.5 cup
Kikkoman Lite Soy Sauce, 1 tbsp
Dinner
Chicken Breast, no skin, 5 ounces
Del Monte Cut Green Beans, 1 cup
Snack
Cottage Cheese, 1% Milkfat, 0.75 cup (not packed)
Apples, fresh, 1 small (2-1/2" dia) (approx 4 per lb)
Almonds, 12 almond

MONDAY'S FOOD DIARY
Breakfast

Egg Whites (All Whites 100% Liquid Egg Whites), 0.7 cup
Organic Blue Agave syrup, 0.5 tbsp
Regular Coffee, 3 cup (8 fl oz)
Strawberries, fresh, 0.5 cup, sliced
John McCann's Steel Cut Irish Oatmeal, 0.5 cup
Lunch
Flat Out Artisan Fold-it Flatbread, 1 serving
Chicken Breast, no skin, 3 ounces
Bib Lettuce, 1 leaf, large
Red Ripe Tomatoes, 2 slice, thin/small
Dinner
Jennie-O Extra Lean Ground Turkey, 4 oz
Mache, 1 cup
Frontera Gourmet Mexican Salsa - Chipotle, 6 tbsp
Snack
Apples, fresh, 1 medium (2-3/4" dia) (approx 3 per lb)
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup
Cucumber (with peel), 1 cup slices
Ken's Lite Chunky Blue Cheese salad dressing, 1 tbsp
Universal Super Whey Protein Powder, 23 gram(s)
Milk, nonfat, 1 cup